Bittersweet Change

You may have noticed references to the Princess in various posts and a few people made comments on the post last month about a guildie crossing lines. He was supposed to be my partner in the guild. I won’t be having those exact issues anymore. Princess left the guild and the server.

After many, many conversations and arguments in which I can honestly say I tried my hardest to make things work out it boiled down to too much history he was unwilling or unable to let go of and move forward from. Both of us have been way too defensive with each other for a long time and that opens the doors for miscommunication. The differences were I was willing to let go of the past and he wasn’t and I tried to keep our differences from having a negative impact on the raids and the gulid and he didn’t. One of the guildies summed it up well when she said, “If Princess wasn’t happy no one was.”

I’m truly sad in many ways to see him go. We were friends for a long time before we ever started playing together in Heroic. I can still remember teaching him the Malygos fight back when that was still the big thing. However, this has been a long time coming and, in the long run, I really think it’s for the best.

So far the guild doesn’t seem too shaken up. I’ve sent them mail to make sure they know that I’m here and nothing changes. The officers have met to figure out what to do with the few pieces he handled and to replace his class/spec. Just your standard damage control. Most of the comments I’ve heard have been along the lines of him being moody, grumpy and not himself for quite a while. I’m sure they won’t miss the delays in raid so he could have temper tantrums either.

I think the biggest mistake I made with this whole situation was attempting to have a co-GM. I know some guilds make it work but the way the game is set up structurally there really isn’t a way to truly make someone else of an equal rank. There will always be one person with the final controls. When new people come into the guild and need to know who is who they will sort by rank. It didn’t help that I’m MT and raid leader most times too. I think he wanted more respect based on rank but never really carved out a defined area in which to demonstrate his expertise and earn the type of respect he wanted from the raiders. When it comes to guild management I’m an admitted control freak so I have to see what someone can do before I will let them loose to do it.

So, I’m a little sad, a little angry he left the way he did, and whole lot relieved that the tension and misery are over.